So, why do we do it? We use science to make our excuses (it’s in our genes) and to free us from guilt as infidelity takes hold as a new way of life. Adultery can be a way for us to express what’s missing in our lives; our unvoiced or unfulfilled desires. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Some of us understand that love and commitment occur independently of our sexual freedom. “I love her, and I’m unfaithful.” Pluume, a Gleeden member, believes that being unfaithful maintains her desire for her husband and creates a balance in her marriage. Far from the general notion of unfaithfulness, the members of Gleeden are most often women and men in love; however their desires are not being met by their partners. By seeking that fulfillment from a lover or a mistress, either physically or virtually, they are able to be happier in their marriage. The couples which are least likely to separate are those which are freely able to express their desires and fantasies, either with their partner, or with someone else…